About Me

I am a single mom of three amazing boys!  All three of my sons entered my family through adoption.  All three of my boys have developmental disabilities. My oldest son, Matthew has been diagnosed with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and Bipolar Disorder. David, my middle son, has a genetic condition, he has a duplication on his 15th chromosome which leads to autism like symptoms, seizures and learning challenges. My youngest son, Jacob has learning disabilities. Each of my children bring unique challengs to our family and also bring their own personality and joys to our everyday life!

Sunday, August 2, 2015

Summer time and the living is .........well, not easy, but fun!

It is very odd when you have spent years of your life worrying about something, to suddenly alter or turn off that worry, but that is exactly what I am trying to do.  After worrying about Matthew so intensely since things went so badly when he was in 3rd grade, I am suddenly enjoying the fruits of my labor.

It is awesome to watch him become the big brother he always wanted to be.

  • He is giving Jacob piggy back rides.
  • He is going for bike rides with Jacob and David and loving it
  • There is laughter in my house
  • Today Jacob announced to his friends that Matthew is HIS big brother, and insisted on going on a go cart ride with Matthew rather than with me!
  • Yesterday David was upset and Matthew talked to David to help him calm down. This has always been something Jacob and I have done, but Matthew did it masterfully while I drove and Jacob chatted with his friend.
I am able to now see a future Matthew who has good things ahead of him.....there is still plenty to be worried about but my worries are now about how to ensure that he has the most opportunities to succeed and gain independence.

I am suddenly looking into the real possibility of him having a job, but needing a coach who can help him interact appropriately in the workplace- this is a HUGE sign of success!

I can foresee a time in the future when he will need a cell phone because he will not always be with me!  That is an awesome sign of growth on his part.  

He is showing so many signs of maturity and growth.  Tonight alone we all sat down for dinner and he was in the basement and was taking forever.  When I asked what he was doing, he told me he was doing the laundry- this is a mom's dream come true!

Then, I went out for a run, and left him to finish eating and came home to him running the dishwasher- AND this time he remembered the soap!

I am hoping beyond hope that we have come through the darkest times, but the best part is that I now know that should life get dark again, I can count on the sunshine coming back with a lot of hardwork from both of us!