About Me


I am a single mom of three amazing boys!  All three of my sons entered my family through adoption.  All three of my boys have developmental disabilities. My oldest son, Matthew has been diagnosed with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and Bipolar Disorder. David, my middle son, has a genetic condition, he has a duplication on his 15th chromosome which leads to autism like symptoms, seizures and learning challenges. My youngest son, Jacob has learning disabilities. Each of my children bring unique challengs to our family and also bring their own personality and joys to our everyday life!

Friday, June 8, 2012

pre k graduate

I will never forget the day that I met Matthew, and started my family!  My parents and I went to pick him up from the adoption agency, and as we drove away I had many thoughts:
1.  I had always dreamed that my first son would be named Seth, so I named Matthew Seth, but he didn't look like a Seth, so I had to figure out what his name would be.

2.  I dreamed of the day he would be Bar Mitzvah at Temple Gates of Heaven- since we moved to Delmar, this will not happen, he will be Bar Mitzvah at Beth Emeth, but on his first few hours with me, I dreamed about this wonderful day with my son.

3.  I dreamed that Matthew would graduate from my Nursery School and would dance to the song New York, New York.  One of our pre-k classes does a very cute graduation ceremony each year, and it blends with my personality! After I saw it for the first time, I just envisioned my child graduating from this class.  Well, Matthew needed a special preschool, and so he did not graduate from my school, and the opportunity for New York, New York was missed.  Then I had hopes that this dream would come true for David, but while he graduated from my school, he was in a different class, and he ended up having seizures on the day of his graduation, so while the day was very emotional for me, since he was leaving my school having grown so much, it was not the day I had envisioned.

Today, my dream came true!  I got to be a mom in Lynne and Judy's room, and got to watch my son dance to New York, New York!  He sang the Boa constricter song, he sang about animal crackers, and he danced.  He got his diploma from my Nursery School, and I cried!  This dream has been 11 years in the making, and to have it come true was incredible.

Jacob makes so many of my parenting dreams come true!  He has been turned on to Tae Kwon Do by one of the teachers at my school, and now takes karate 3 times a week and is loving it! 

He has friends, and loves playing with other kids his own age, and I envision playdates, sleepovers and other fabulous rites of passage as Jacob continues to grow up!

When you wait 11 years for a dream to come true, the dream is just that much more amazing!  Today was my day to see my baby graduate, and it was truly so very special!

3 comments:

  1. I am crying as I read this. How much we take for granted and don't even realize and/or think that there are people out there like you with a dream. We all dream and for 75% of the people who dream, it comes true. I have 3 grandsons and all my hopes and dreams for them have not only been met, but have gotten even better. I wish somehow your story could reach them and some how affect how they live. I know that I am affected beyond belief. I don't know how you do it Amie. You are one capable, wonderful, human being. This is what life is all about. You have not just gone the extra mile, you have done millions of miles with these boys. I have a GF who has a Bi polar daughter and I have been in her life since she was born, (I may have told you about her, she is now 16) and what my GF has gone thru i have experienced first hand even though now they live in Massena. I fly up there every summer to see her. I would like to copy this and send this to my girl friend to let her know there is someone out there like you with no husband handling this all alone. Is there a way you could get me a hard copy of your whole story including this new post? I feel so lucky to have known you and wish I had not dropped out of your life. It seems like you have been lucky in that you have so many friends in your life and I can only hope they have helped you get where you are. I love you, Amie you have to be such an inspiration to everyone who comes into your life. You cetainly have touched mine. My health is not that great but I have a good listening ear and would be happy to listen anytime. Kudos to you and all you do for so many. If there is a heaven you will surely be seated in the first seat. Sending so many hugs to you and your boys. Stay sane GF Linda Ski

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  2. Congrats Amie (and Jacob, of course)!!! I hope many more of your dreams come true. You so very much deserve it! :)

    Ali Bowder

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  3. I had no idea how truly special this day was for you. Congrats to you and to Jacob.

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