About Me


I am a single mom of three amazing boys!  All three of my sons entered my family through adoption.  All three of my boys have developmental disabilities. My oldest son, Matthew has been diagnosed with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and Bipolar Disorder. David, my middle son, has a genetic condition, he has a duplication on his 15th chromosome which leads to autism like symptoms, seizures and learning challenges. My youngest son, Jacob has learning disabilities. Each of my children bring unique challengs to our family and also bring their own personality and joys to our everyday life!

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

I will trust my gut. I am the mom to 3 amazing boys and my gut instincts are strong

Matthew has been wetting his bed for 5 LONG months. For 5 long months I have told his Psychiatrist there is a problem. SOmething is wrong with my son. For 5 long months she said, he is fine. Do not worry. This week he stopped taking his lithium. Within 5 days, the bed wetting stopped. We lived 5 horrendous months because I didnt insist that he be taken off of Lithium.

I will not make that mistake again.

Matthew was crying and crying and crying at 4 Winds. They had taken him off of Zoloft and he was having withdrawal. They said he missed his mommy. I said, something is very, very wrong. I knew something was wrong on Friday. On the following Monday the doctors decided something was wrong. By then, he could not walk. He could not hold a pencil. His body was atoxic and things were very wrong. I should have insisted that they restart the zoloft and take him off of the Depakote. He suffered for 3 long days because I did not insist.

I will not make that mistake again.

David's behavior had changed. He was talking very, very fast. He was very, very impulsive. Something was wrong. He needed an increase in his ADHD medications. He is fine they said at school. He is fine everyone else said. I finally called the doctor to ask for an increase. David read his first book all by himself just days after the medication increased and he spent time in a typical 1st grade classroom. Without the medication increase he couldn't have done those things his teacher said. Without the increase his body was out of control. I waited too long to increase his medication. I listened to so many others while my boy was struggling.

I will not make that mistake again.

I know my boys. I love my boys. I need to learn to trust myself. I need to remember I know them more and better than anyone else on the planet. I need to trust my gut. They need me to be proactive. They need me to be a stronger mom.

I will stop listening to the world around me when my gut is telling me something is wrong.
I will trust my gut.
I will not make these mistakes again.

1 comment:

  1. You DO know best. It is not necessary to be liked by the doctors. You pay them. They work for you.

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